Category: Dating

Envy. Envy. Envy.


[Re-posted from an SCV Gazette Afternoon T. article]  Q: How do I fight the green-eyed monster of envy? An ex has replaced me and I am practically stalking the new love on every social media platform. I can’t even say it’s about the two of them being together. I’m obsessed with everything my ‘replacement’ does. I don’t know how to stop this crazy-train.  A: First let’s clarify a couple of things. 1) There’s no such thing as ‘practically stalking’ if […]


Abuse Molds You

Abuse molds a person, whether by actual hands of aggression or by words. Patrick Stewart recently came out to talk about the abuse he was subjected to as a child and I’ve never wanted to hug a stranger (which I often do) so much in my life. What particularly affected me was his take on the flip comments made by others about the abuse, about what triggered it. As if it were justifiable if someone asked for it. One of […]


Eat, Pray, Love… and read your email.

When you least expect it, a song — and an email — can change your life , in a way you just didn’t think possible.  4+ years ago, the Three Dog Night song “Shambala” was sent to me in an email (by someone I adore — who still does not know what he did for me) and for some reason (truly, at that time there was no absolutely no rhyme or reason)… it touched a place in my heart I […]


Promises, Promises

Promises can seem like an awful thing, if you really think about it.  Author Paul Coelho wrote, “In the first place, you shouldn’t believe in promises… Those who make promises they don’t keep end up powerless and frustrated, and exactly the fate awaits those who believe promises.”  Harsh words, when you consider one of the first things we typically believe early in life, are the words told to us.  Is it wrong to retain some belief in the promises made […]


Ex-Bashing as Sport

There are a lot of sports I cannot wrap my head around, like – golf and bowling.  What are they really?  Sport?  Game?  Depends on who you ask.  For the most part, people who love a sport – whether spectator or participant – are passionate about the activity and take it very seriously.  I’m okay with that.  The increased respirations and heart rate that comes from their enthusiasm could almost count as a sport, in and of itself.  So, I […]


Boy Meets Girl (2.0)

Boy and Girl meet in High School Drama Class in the late 1970’s.  Both were creative teenagers, tender 14 year old Freshmen with visions of stars, certainly not each other (yet), in their eyes.  Cast in Little Women, Boy played Professor Bhaer to Girl’s Jo and at the end of the play, the characters ended up married – while the young actors would remain friends… for the next 34 years. They remained the dearest of friends, Boy and Girl, holding each […]